Wednesday, February 26, 2014
When Being Strong Becomes a Burden
Is there a monopoly on pain?
One of the biggest problems in our society is the inability to love unconditionally, and allowing only certain people to have pain.
We tend to look at others who are higher up on the hierarchy of pain and challenge, and say, who am I to feel emotional and physical pain when this other person has it so much worse?
As my friend and beloved neighbor once said to me,
Pain is Pain
To dismiss your pain as any less significant than another person's, you are denying yourself an opportunity to grow. You have to fully accept what is going on in your life in order to move on.
By not allowing yourself to be tired, to feel downtrodden, to feel hurt by someone, by not accepting your plight in this world...
You will hurt more
Stuff it down and down and not deal with it, hide it's magnitude, and it will only overcome you at some point.
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Don't let anyone tell you you can't feel disappointment, or you have no right to complain. Life is a balancing act.
The trick is to take a short while...the trouble begins when you take too long with it. You grasp it too closely and start to like the feel and texture of it.
Do not become a habitual complainer, but be sure to be aware of your pain. Aware enough to let it go.
Face it head on, then and only then, let it go.
You are human, afterall